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Topic: Internet Dating - Has anyone tried it?
Darragh Farrell
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 15:04
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I know some people won`t like to admit it, but can anyone share any experiences, that they or maybe someone they know has had?

I`m getting a bit tired of the whole nightclub scene and drunken chat ups.
There must be better ways to meet members of the opposite sex, who I have more in common with?
eamonn
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 15:18
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Depends where you are. Everybody does it around here. Stay away from sites lime match.com or eharmony. They charge you a fortune and 90% of the emails you send can`t be read by the people you send them to. That`s basically a scam to defraud you out of your money, they keep profiles up even though the people in them are no longer active on the site and don`t pay the subscription that lets them read your messages.

Stick to free services like okcupid.com or plentyoffish.com which are free. They also have ways of preventing spammers from creating fake profiles.

I get decent results from it, I use it as a supplement to the bar scene. I know some fellas who get laid on a regular basis from it. If you live in a decent sized city where there really is plenty of fish in the sea then you`ll do all right. If you`re in rural Ireland then your options are obviously going to be a bit more limited and people might have a different attitude to it.

Being a member of a co-ed sports club is another good alley of attack if you want to meet people. Even if the girls are taken they`ll probably be willing to introduce you to their single friends, I`ve had that happen too.
Top Cat
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 16:03
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I found them fine to be honest and am living with my partner nearly a year now.I did go on dates with a few nightmares but a few might say the same about me I have also made some really good friends on it,But i will say it is not for everyone as being able to type on a keyboard will not help you when you eventually have to meet face to face,honesty is always the best policy as i have went to meet people saying they were around one age only to see they were about ten years older than they had said.
But it is fun.wouldnt do it if you dont have coinfidence enough to keep conversation going during a date.
interpol
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 16:05
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Nowadays, I pity any lad in Ireland on the pull. Whatever your motives are  (getting laid or finding a nce girl )  it is difficult. Much of it has to do with booze and attitude. Usually the lad has to be hammered to talk to a girl and the girl is usually half twisted aswell. You also have to contend with some bollixs of an ex boyfriend lurking in the corner of the pub keeping on eye on her, or her fat friend doing her best to ensure no one scores. This is particularly evident in rural parts of Ireland. You could end up tapping some young one who has had half the town inside her. No harm in trying on line dating. My own advice would be to spend your beer money  (100 euro a session )  on a cheap ryanair flight out of your nearest airport to the UK or Europe 1 weekend a month and you`ll be beating them off with a stick. If not, just accept that you are an ugly boring f**ker that is destined for a long life as a batchelor. That, or you end upmarrying the town bike.
Darragh Farrell
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 16:29
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Thanks.
Some of the tips have been very helpful.

Do any of you recommend putting up a profile photo that is visible to the public?
Top Cat
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 16:59
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Originally posted by Darragh Farrell:
Thanks.
Some of the tips have been very helpful.

Do any of you recommend putting up a profile photo that is visible to the public?

I did and i wouldnt look a girls profile if she didnt have a picture up i just feel ur tryin to hide something.Plus the fact if they are mailing you knowing what you look like, you know they are interested in you. But i will say put up a recent photo and maybe add a few more that you can leave friends see as you get them.
Alone It Stands
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 17:04
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A fella in work met his wife on an internet site.
She is from the Philippines though, so I`m not sure what sort of dating site it was.
South Limerick Referee
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 17:45
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The internet scene wouldnt appeal to me anyways. Every man to himself I suppose and it probably suits some people.

Dont knock the nightclub scene, tis responsible for 99.99% of couples getting together!!! The couple are too shy to say any more than a hello to one another when sober, and both of them are half afraid to make a move in case its a wrong one, so they take a few drinks on board. The courage kicks in after the few drinks and they lob the gob on one another. It all takes off from there then.
Clonliffe Cat
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 17:51
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Originally posted by South Limerick Referee:
lob the gob

That reminds me, saw this earlier.

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Clonliffe Cat
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 17:53
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On the general topic, as with most things in life I`d say don`t knock it til you try it. Top Cat is spot on in his comments.
limericklass
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 18:02
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I wouldn`t do it myself. I suppose its tag rugby or Pub/ nightclub. For me the latter works fine..
clangera
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 18:03
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Originally posted by interpol:
Nowadays, I pity any lad in Ireland on the pull. Whatever your motives are   (getting laid or finding a nce girl  )   it is difficult. Much of it has to do with booze and attitude. Usually the lad has to be hammered to talk to a girl and the girl is usually half twisted aswell. You also have to contend with some bollixs of an ex boyfriend lurking in the corner of the pub keeping on eye on her, or her fat friend doing her best to ensure no one scores. This is particularly evident in rural parts of Ireland. You could end up tapping some young one who has had half the town inside her. No harm in trying on line dating. My own advice would be to spend your beer money   (100 euro a session  )   on a cheap ryanair flight out of your nearest airport to the UK or Europe 1 weekend a month and you`ll be beating them off with a stick. If not, just accept that you are an ugly boring f**ker that is destined for a long life as a batchelor. That, or you end upmarrying the town bike.

100% agree. Ireland is cursed when it comes to scoring. The Irish, both men and women, are incapable of flirting or chatting up or being brave when sober.

I lived in Moscow for a year, and you`d want to see them in action. It is perfectly acceptable  to chat up a bird anytime of day and anywhere and its also grand for women to approach men which generally doesnt happen here. Also there is no shame in getting shot down - the slagging over here never stops! Its the same in the US, where local birds are baffled and offended at being called `forward` by the Irish women. They arent being forward, they`re just being normal.

Ireland is sadly cursed with two species that ruin the whole thing
 (1 )  The middling-to-ok looking bird with a big arse who thinks she`s pretty like her friends. She isnt, but wastes no time making sure nobody scores on a night out
 (2 )  The drunk Irishman. Lay off the sauce lads, no-one likes a drunk.
South Limerick Referee
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 18:15
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Originally posted by clangera:
getting shot down

If people had a crystal ball and they could predict the answer with certainty they would make the move a lot more confidently.
Top Cat
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 18:30
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Originally posted by clangera:


100% agree. Ireland is cursed when it comes to scoring. The Irish, both men and women, are incapable of flirting or chatting up or being brave when sober.

I lived in Moscow for a year, and you`d want to see them in action. It is perfectly acceptable    to chat up a bird anytime of day and anywhere and its also grand for women to approach men which generally doesnt happen here. Also there is no shame in getting shot down - the slagging over here never stops! Its the same in the US, where local birds are baffled and offended at being called `forward` by the Irish women. They arent being forward, they`re just being normal.

Ireland is sadly cursed with two species that ruin the whole thing
   (1   )    The middling-to-ok looking bird with a big arse who thinks she`s pretty like her friends. She isnt, but wastes no time making sure nobody scores on a night out
   (2   )    The drunk Irishman. Lay off the sauce lads, no-one likes a drunk.

Have you used an internet dating site? as you have to be more than just some fellow that can come up with a quick one liner to try and get in there.As if you flirt and it doesnt work you can just walk away.on a dating site you will more than lightly have to sit down with the person without any drink on board and have a conversation which will take more courage than a person that will just flirt.
Plus through a dating site you will know if you have the same interests and woud be able to get along
Believe me it takes alot more confidence to date on a site than to try and flirt in a night club
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Keanes Road
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 18:37
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P-7xrav9rmo

cowpat
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 20:28
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wouldn`t rule it in or out, but it often feels like you have to be the perfect salesman online and be extra witty with your profiles etc. However, at least you`ll make sure of hooking up with someone with the same interests.
Nothing worse than hooking up with someone when you are on the town, then meeting again and realising you have absolutely nothing in common....
AllStar FullForward
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 20:31
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Originally posted by interpol:
Nowadays, I pity any lad in Ireland on the pull. Whatever your motives are   (getting laid or finding a nce girl  )   it is difficult. Much of it has to do with booze and attitude. Usually the lad has to be hammered to talk to a girl and the girl is usually half twisted aswell. You also have to contend with some bollixs of an ex boyfriend lurking in the corner of the pub keeping on eye on her, or her fat friend doing her best to ensure no one scores. This is particularly evident in rural parts of Ireland. You could end up tapping some young one who has had half the town inside her.

the fat friend is known as the cóck block, the girl whose sole purpose of the night is to prevent her attractive friend from scoring..but you have hit the nail right on the head with that statement!
Pas de Deux
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 20:49
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Originally posted by interpol:
Nowadays, I pity any lad in Ireland on the pull. Whatever your motives are   (getting laid or finding a nce girl  )   it is difficult. Much of it has to do with booze and attitude. Usually the lad has to be hammered to talk to a girl and the girl is usually half twisted aswell. You also have to contend with some bollixs of an ex boyfriend lurking in the corner of the pub keeping on eye on her, or her fat friend doing her best to ensure no one scores. This is particularly evident in rural parts of Ireland. You could end up tapping some young one who has had half the town inside her. No harm in trying on line dating. My own advice would be to spend your beer money   (100 euro a session  )   on a cheap ryanair flight out of your nearest airport to the UK or Europe 1 weekend a month and you`ll be beating them off with a stick. If not, just accept that you are an ugly boring f**ker that is destined for a long life as a batchelor. That, or you end upmarrying the town bike.

You were on a roll there alright ! But it is true !
Enjoyed that !

One thing I would say though is that many lads should make a better effort at dressing up etc - it goes a long way !
eamonn
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 21:23
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Originally posted by AllStar FullForward:
the fat friend is known as the cóck block, the girl whose sole purpose of the night is to prevent her attractive friend from scoring..but you have hit the nail right on the head with that statement!

That`s why it`s best to have a wingman. He takes care of the cóckblocker while you stay on target. A wingwoman is a hundred times more effective though. If you have a female friend with you, you`ll be beating the girls back with a big stick.
BlackandWhite1976
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 21:53
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wingwoman and cock blocker - two new ones for me and my sheltered existence! Very funny thread this has turned in to. I would agree about the wing woman - women will think you must be `normal` if you have a female friend with you. I`ve come across a few cock blockers in my time too  (they didn`t appreciate it I can tell you ) .
limericklass
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 22:00
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Originally posted by BlackandWhite1976:
wingwoman and cock blocker - two new ones for me and my sheltered existence! Very funny thread this has turned in to. I would agree about the wing woman - women will think you must be `normal` if you have a female friend with you. I`ve come across a few cock blockers in my time too   (they didn`t appreciate it I can tell you  )  .

They are new to me as well and I dont live a sheltered existence  (but it seems i do )  ..never heard of it..
cowpat
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Posted: 27-Jul-2010 22:05
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another good strategy: stay on the non alcho for the night, if you`re in a late bar, of which there are a few in Limk, you get lots of lads boozed to the gills at the end of the night acting the Larry to women, who don`t want to know. All you have to do is keep your cool, keep the antenna working, and bobs your uncle. Chances are they will have drink in them, so you can just say the right things, and you`re away with it....
interpol
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Posted: 28-Jul-2010 02:06
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Originally posted by eamonn:


That`s why it`s best to have a wingman. He takes care of the cóckblocker while you stay on target. A wingwoman is a hundred times more effective though. If you have a female friend with you, you`ll be beating the girls back with a big stick.

One also has to contend with the male cock block. The guy who slips in out of nowhere trying to upset your target. Best thing to do in this situation is be a nice as you can to him and dont let him engage your target. I like the idea of a wingwoman but surely it has its drawbacks? Your wingwoman would be chatting to girls all night surely?

Topcat, you seem to be a great believer in internet dating. Have you managed to do the no pants dance with anyone you met online? or are you looking for a wife?
DavidO'Carlo/Wex
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Posted: 28-Jul-2010 02:15
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Whatever about the Internet Dating Scene & its` Merits, maybe it`s the old Pipe & Slippers routine getting the better of me but the Nightclub Scene is a load of codswallop & these Superpubs where the Music Decibel Level is jacked up is crazy.

I`m all for a Telly in the Corner or a Big Screen showing the GAA or the Footie or Horse-Racing or even Rugby  (although not even if it was in the back yord! )  that generates some atmosphre from a split crowd.

But shouting at young wan is not a way to converse.

These days I generally stick-around outside in the sheltered areas & chat where I/We can be heard.

Way better than trying to guess what each is saying.

"What`s that Love? You want to do WHAT!?". "Oh, you DON`T want to do that!"?
Top Cat
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Posted: 28-Jul-2010 09:20
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Originally posted by interpol:


One also has to contend with the male cock block. The guy who slips in out of nowhere trying to upset your target. Best thing to do in this situation is be a nice as you can to him and dont let him engage your target. I like the idea of a wingwoman but surely it has its drawbacks? Your wingwoman would be chatting to girls all night surely?

Topcat, you seem to be a great believer in internet dating. Have you managed to do the no pants dance with anyone you met online? or are you looking for a wife?


No im not looking for a wife i have done the marraige thing.Yes internet dating does work for the right people but it can be so wrong for some people.
Was married,i separated and didnt fancy going back to the club and pub scene to get a date.
I am not bad looking and keep myself fit,i have loads of confidence so getting a date is not a problem.But decided i`d use the internet instead of the pub scene and actually find it easier than the pub scene.
What is the no pants dance by the way haven`t heard of this before.

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